My husband hasn't been home for 4 months. Expects me to let him do what ever he wants, unfamily related. The main problem is the drinking. Doesn't pay for his kid. Until the pressure is put on him. Any chance he's get when he was here he would lie just to get out of the house run to the nearest friend's house that drinks or the closest bar. And when asked for money to help out on things he would ALWAYS say, I don't have it. You know it is so sad. That a little effort on his part could help our marriage, But I guess I'll never know.