Divorce impacts both parties. It has its palpable effects on children too. Next to the death of a loved one, it’s said to be one of the most profound and painful emotional experiences that a man or woman can have. Different people have different ways of getting through divorce. These are generally recommended ideas.
Those who value you
Spend time with people that enjoy your company and value your relationship with them. Those are the people you’ve reached out to consciously or subconsciously in one way or another over the years anyway. They might be relatives, old friends or co-workers. They’re not going to judge, criticize or attempt to orchestrate your case. Surround yourself with those people. You’ll be needing them.
Your Own Value
You were born with and also developed talents, skills and intellectual gifts. You may have shoved these aside and forgotten about them over the years. Identify those qualities and focus on them in your daily life and endeavors. Your focus will grow and continue to remind you that you’re a unique and valuable asset to those around you and our society as a whole.
Retain an Attorney
Indeed you can represent yourself in your own divorce, but if a lawyer that represents himself or herself represents a fool, what does that make you? Divorce is a legal process with emotional repercussions. Attorneys are acutely aware of the reputations of other attorneys. Even if it’s from the real estate attorney that closed on your house, ask for a referral. They know who is good. Quality divorce lawyers come in all shapes, sizes and colors. Don’t select a woman just because you’re a woman. Don’t select solely from your ethnic or racial background either. Select who you feel is the best person for the job who you feel comfortable with.
Value your Attorney’s Advice
This might be your first or second divorce. It might be your attorney’s 10,000th. Let your attorney pick the fights. Everywhere you’re going in this case, your attorney has been to before. They know what’s worth fighting for and what is a waste of your time and money. By selecting a top quality attorney, you’ll be getting top quality legal advice. They’re not always going to tell you what you want to hear, but they’re successful for a reason.
It’s a strenuous legal experience, but you’ll make it through your divorce. The two people most pivotal in that experience are you and your attorney.